Sex may not sound like something you want to do right when you have been cleared from delivering your baby, but let’s talk about how important it is to include this in your new mom recovery.
When your body has healed from delivery, here are some things to think about:
You should not have pain with sex.
You should be able to climax.
You should have fun. Your libido (desire) can be a bit lacking. Sometimes this is from lack of sleep, nursing hormones, task lists in your head, and a general sense of being overwhelmed or not liking your body.
It is totally normal for breasts to leak while being intimate and you may suffer from vaginal dryness as well (especially if nursing).
So what can you do?
Set time aside with your partner to connect. Don’t let the baby monopolize all your time. Let your body have time to warm up. Using a lubricant can help when arousal is slow. It also protects tissue from friction.
Embrace your postpartum body. Understand that you are changing every day and realize what your body just accomplished. If you continue to struggle, don't be ashamed to ask for help.
Check out our tips for postnatal body care.